And yet, even though I’ve had a profile on my website of choice for those seven years, I’ve only had it appearing as active for less than four months total. Because whenever I activate my profile, it gets responses so quickly, and I find a romantic partner that I’m excited about so efficiently, that I inevitably end up shutting down the page (generally) in less than a week or two.I’ve met some of the most amazing women of my life through online dating. You might think it’s the greatest thing ever, you might think it’s a massive time suck.More importantly (for the purposes of this article), I’ve been a user of online dating websites for those same seven years, and have helped many clients find long-term partners and husbands/wives using online dating. As of the time of me writing this article, I’ve been a professional relationship coach full time for the past seven years. Whatever your opinions of online dating are, my single, focused goal with this article is to help you find a highly aligned romantic partner in as short of amount of time as possible.For example, say you’re into kink/BDSM/fetish type stuff in your sex life. If you’re engaging in online dating to find a partner who is an aligned match for you, then you have to think of yourself as the product and your profile as the sales page. Saying you’re taller than you are gets you nowhere.If it is absolutely mandatory that your partner be into it as well, you’re probably better off going straight to Fet Life and getting an account (note: even though Fet Life is more of a social networking site than a dating site, it is often used by it’s members for dating purposes). Alright, you know why online dating is awesome, and you have an idea as to which site you should sign up on. Your photos, words, and the decisions that you make in crafting your profile are the things that could either lead you to finding your next lover, spouse, or significant other… Saying you love your life more than you do gets you nowhere.
Much more challenging for most people.)– The variety of dating websites that can help you connect with people that might have more niche interests (i.e.The most effective strategy I have found (for myself and for my many clients who I’ve worked with through this process) is to spend 90% of your time making an amazing profile, and then spend a little bit of time messaging a few quality options that pique your interest (or let them come to you). As a rule of thumb, for most people, you want to be going to online dating sites with large numbers of users.Match and e Harmony have tons of users and are geared more towards people who know they’re looking for marriage and/or long-term monogamy.This point is especially true for the things that you think are your flaws/weaknesses.